If you’ve ever been through something emotionally painful, the main thing you always here is…talk about it, it helps. ‘A problem halved is a problem shared’ and all. Well this may be true and yes talking about what has happened may very well make you feel lighter but it can sometimes make you feel like you’re in a competition.
Unfortunately, some journeys to motherhood are not as smooth as they should be. Unfortunately some journeys to motherhood take far longer than we’d ever expect. Unfortunately, some journeys to motherhood have many corners to turn and heartbreak to live with. If you’ve ever been through a journey to motherhood you’ll more than likely know what I mean.
While some women’s journey carries this pain, it’s only when we start to talk about what has happend to our friends and loved ones that we start to realise a few things. Either that as much as they try to support, they don’t really understand. Through no fault of their own, just simply that their road to motherhood was a smoother journey. These people can give great comfort and hope to us but it can be very hard to relay our true feelings to them and connect about our story.
There are other friends and family who have sadly also had a tiresome and painful journey to motherhood. And while our conversations together can be bonded with mutual pain, heartbreak and understanding, no two roads are the same. Even more sad is the fact that others may have had and even harder journey than ourselves and our talking about how we feel and our story can make us feel that actually we’ve had it a lot simpler than some.
No matter what your journey to motherhood. No matter what trials you may or may not have faced. It’s not a competition. While others may have had a far more grueling experience, it doesn’t take away from the pain and hurt you may feel. If you find yourself talking about your feelings one day, don’t pause short of the real emotions you feel. Be true and kind to yourself, as you have lived with every emotion along your journey and these have made you into who you are. If you find yourself sharing your story with someone who has had a longer, seemingly more painful experience, share your stories together with understanding that other people’s pain and heartbreak thresh-hold might be very different from your own. It doesn’t take away from the feelings you have. You’ve been through enough, don’t make talking about it yet another scar to bare.
Being Mum, Being Me 